When was the last time you got yourself in trouble by overthinking? What kinds of things do you tell yourself about who you are and what you’re capable of? What do you tell yourself about others? It is possible to think yourself into problems through mistaken beliefs, attitudes, and patterns of thinking. But it does not have to be this way. You have the power and can equip yourself with the tools to change your “stinking thinking.”
The overall goal of cognitive coaching is to reduce emotional distress, gain control over your thoughts, and change the trajectory of your life. By altering or correcting faulty thoughts, perceptions, and beliefs you can intentionally change your life. As a coach, I view my clients (you) as the direct agent of your own changes. You are in control and are the expert on you. You are not a helpless victim of circumstance or forces beyond your control. Yes, life happens. Charles Swindoll has said, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react.” Your reactions are based on your thoughts and your thoughts are rooted in your beliefs.
When you choose to think a particular way or adjust the way you think about something, you are rightfully taking responsibility for yourself. You bear responsibility for your own thoughts and it’s your job to take charge of them.
Challenge Your Thinking
When you increase your self awareness and identify your negative thoughts you can begin to change them. In this episode I give several strategies for taking control. These include:
- Writing down the negative thoughts
- Talking back and challenging your negative thoughts
- Questioning your thoughts – Is this true? Can you prove it? Are you overgeneralizing?
- Stop giving power to your negative thinking
- Find Your Beach!
*Cognitive coaching, in a Christian coaching context, presupposes the transformational aspect of regeneration accomplished by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit in the life of a believer. Control is a relative term. You have responsibility in how you respond to truth in your life. Real and lasting change is accomplished by God but our willingness to follow His lead is in our control. This might seem like a non-issue but I think it is important to make the distinction to be aware of how change takes place. Basically, we’re training ourselves to live according to our “new nature.” If you have questions about this process, please contact me.