Frequently Asked Questions*

Life coaching is about getting results! A life coach is a partner that comes alongside you to help you navigate change and maneuver obstacles that are keeping you from moving forward in various areas of your life.

Working with a coach can help you evaluate your lifestyle, form a vision of where you want to go, build new boundaries into your daily routine, reconnect with God, and live with hope and enthusiasm again.

A coach helps you take the necessary steps to turn your potential into reality. A coach will leave you with increased self-confidence, clearer direction, and greater fulfillment than you would have had otherwise.

A coach is trained and devoted to guiding you into increased competence, commitment, and confidence. A coach is a collaborative partner that helps you work “from the inside out,” not “the outside in.”

A good coach is adept at asking the right questions that challenge clients to take new perspectives and consider different options. These questions help clients articulate their core values, hearts, and minds, and then challenge them to move proactively toward the clarified vision.

Fundamentally, transformational coaching seeks a desired life shift that results from a change in the base philosophy and processes you’ve used in the past. It is designed to be holistic ─ meaning body, mind, and spirit ─ and enacted over a period of time.

Transformational coaching is intended to get at the heart of who you are and what you truly want your life to be. As a result, it can potentially influence every aspect of your life. The transformative experience, or metamorphosis, that occurs can be due to a radical change…such as a caterpillar into a butterfly…or it can be subtle and less life-changing but nonetheless significant and lasting. Reaching specific goals, getting unstuck, or making a decision can have profound results.

In our context, it is based on Romans 12:1-2 and addresses changes in the way we think and perceive the world, which in turn influences our actions and behaviors. Truth is at the heart of living an abundant life and achieving your full potential.

Fundamentally, counseling helps people deal with and cope with the past. By contrast, coaching helps people move forward and embrace their future.

Counseling is about healing; coaching is about growth.

Counselors help people with issues like depression, anxiety, inner turmoil, and conflict with others. Such problems imply that something in life is wrong, missing, or needing to be fixed.

Coaches, on the other hand, take a more positive approach and focus on hope, creativity, optimism, responsibility, and moving to higher levels of fulfillment.

Coaching focuses on possibilities and looks at where people want to go in the future. Coaching is a proactive, growth-oriented, skill-building partnership that is less formal than the therapist-patient relationship.

Coaching is not for those who need therapy to overcome the past; it is for relatively well-adjusted people who want to build a vision for the future.

Another key difference is that coaching works from the inside-out and is not an outside-in process. Meaning, instead of being prescribed things to do (although there may be times when this is appropriate) solutions are drawn from what is already within you. The philosophy of coaching is that you likely already have viable solutions to your challenges, you simply are not able to access it all at will. You are the expert on you and your situation, barring some inquisitive insights from your coach. With the help of a coach who submits powerful and inquiring questioning, you can arrive at a solution that you are 100% committed to and is most likely to work. Your coach helps you shift your perspective and see things from a different angle, in a different context, or with a different understanding.

Coaching is all about the possibilities that result in the pursuit of striving to reach your full potential.

People hire a coach because they want growth. The work is not problem-focused, per se. There should be no particular dysfunctions or diagnostic issues that need healing – that is the work of therapy and counseling.

Coaching clients have specific goals/dreams/visions toward which they feel drawn, and they desire to discern these more clearly and then act upon them.

People hire coaches to start home businesses, prepare for retirement, switch to living on one income, or carve out more time for their families. Many clients are in transitions such as empty-nesting, or are moving on after the death of a spouse, or divorce.

Couples hire coaches to strengthen their relationship and enhance their parenting. Business and ministry leaders hire a coach to strengthen their leadership abilities. Many work with coaches to improve time management and organization, or lose weight and improve health practices.

Whatever the life issues, all coaching clients hold a deep desire for richer, more fulfilling, more God-honoring growth in their lives.

Professional coaching explicitly targets maximizing potential and in doing so, reveals previously untapped sources of productivity and effectiveness. The heart of coaching is a thought-provoking and creative process that supports clients to confidently pursue new ideas and alternative solutions to challenges and obstacles. This gives clients a greater resiliency in the face of complex and uncertain situations.

Coaching helps to keep expectations high and moods positive. This restores the self-confidence and self-trust needed to take the steps of faith required to move forward. In the context of Christian coaching, when combined with an awareness of the Holy Spirit’s leading and guidance, confidence and conviction remain strong in the face of opposition. Meaning, coaching improves and magnifies your stick-to-itiveness.

The coach-client relationship generates learning and clarity for positive forward movement combined with a commitment to clear, measurable goals. This gives coaching a high return on investment (ROI).

In one study carried out by PricewaterhouseCoopers, clients across the entire range of coaching reported the following results.

57% – Improved time management
61% – Improved business management
67% – Improved work/life balance
70% – Improved work performance
73% – Improved relationships
80% – Improved self confidence
96% – Customers who would do it all again
99% – Customers who were satisfied with their coaching

Coaching works!

Life coaching works for several reasons:

Synergy between coach and client creates momentum and enthusiasm. Better goals can be set, ones that naturally motivate and inspire you. You develop new skills, which lead to greater success.

Coaching also provides a structure of support. Left to our own devices, most people start out with the best intentions and then hit a snag and either get derailed completely or delayed for a long time. A professional Life Coach can help you quickly bust through snags and inevitable road blocks in life so that more is accomplished with less struggle and less effort in a remarkably short period of time.

Objectivity is another reason. Part of my role as your coach is as an objective, positive supporter. Not everyone is lucky enough to have such a friend or colleague to provide this. Even family members, who have your best interests at heart, often have trouble being unbiased and offering truly objective insights. If you’re in a position of leadership in your career, you might be surrounded by people who, through no fault of their own, fear offering open and honest feedback out of worry over security of their position…they don’t want to lose their job! So, to protect themselves, they tell you want to hear instead of what you need to hear. A coach doesn’t have that problem. In fact, you’ve hired him or her for the specific reason of being open, honest, and direct with you. A coach’s job is to sometimes give you medicine you might find difficult to swallow.

If you’ve been doing it solo, try seeing how much more you can accomplish with your own personal coach!

If you desire to make a positive change, seek greater balance in your life, improve a relationship, or generally want to get unstuck and move forward, coaching could be the right thing for you.

Not only do you need to be looking forward but you must also be ready to take the steps and do the work necessary to reach your goals. If you are looking for somewhere to simply vent about your past or complain about your present circumstances, then hiring a coach will likely be a waste of time and money.

In a word, yes.

Coaching is the art and practice of enabling individuals and groups to move from where they are to where they want to be.

Christian coaching is the art and practice of enabling individuals and groups to move from where they are to where God wants them to be (Collins, 2009). The trick is to be in sync in your relationship with God so that where God wants you to be is also where you want to be. The desires of our heart are granted when they are consistent with God’s word (Psalm 20:4; 37:4).

My coaching is distinctly Christian and applies a biblical worldview to problem-solving and goal setting. Jesus came to give us eternal life and lives that are more full and abundant (John 3:16; 10:10). I make no apologies for taking this perspective.

The status of your faith, or lack thereof, certainly has a bearing on the effectiveness of my coaching and the impact of my approach. However, taking a biblical worldview means that I start with the premise that all people are created in God’s image.

This view necessitates respect for the uniqueness and individualities of clients and full affirmation of their right to build lives on values that differ from traditional Judeo-Christian perspectives. I don’t hide my beliefs but neither do I force clients to accept them.

Christian coaching incorporates development of what is referred to as the “fruit of the Spirit” (Galatians 5:22-23). This fruit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control…values that most can agree are positive and desirable.

Before hiring a Christian coach, it is important to understand the perspective that will be taken and applied.

My job is to meet you where you are and help you get where you want to be…and this may or may not include establishing or re-kindling a relationship with God.

However, this truth applies to every person: What we believe influences who we are and, in turn, impacts everything we do (Collins, 2009).

Further, Christian coaching is not discipleship or mentoring. That said, it is vitally important that client and coach work together in partnership and mutual trust. Coaching depends on personal chemistry between coach and client, mutual respect, coaching competence, and confidentiality.

Effective coaching is about helping you move forward, and you do not have to be a Christian for that to happen…but it certainly doesn’t hurt.

I provide personal and professional coaching that includes but is not limited to (in no particular order): personal development & growth, spirituality & living the Christian life, communication, finding balance, relationship/marriage/pre-marital, self-improvement, life change & transition, organizational skills, leadership, executive coaching, life purpose, public speaking, academic/graduate studies, Pastor-to-Pastor, career development, health & fitness, professional development, church leadership, and ministry.

That may seem like a rather lengthy list but coaching often covers a wide range of areas once it gets started, as areas of our lives tend to overlap. In addition, I take a holistic approach to coaching that intentionally addresses your biopsychosocial-spiritual character. This addresses your physical, emotional, social, and spiritual needs in the context of your goals. Physical will address fitness and nutrition. Emotional deals with personality and self-concept. Social considers friends, family, life-stage, and support environment. Spiritual would obviously deal with your sense of self, sense of meaning, life purpose, and beliefs. These insights lead us to identifying resources, options, possibilities, exceptions, and solutions. I will help you in whatever area I can and if you have an area in which I am not experienced, I will refer you to another, better equipped coach.

My area of specialty is with men between 30-60 who seek greater potential realized in their personal, professional, or spiritual lives. More specifically, I guide mid-life Christian leaders and potential leaders to finding greater life fulfillment, balance, and impact through transition and positive change. I work primarily with middle-aged men who are stuck in their personal or professional lives to find new direction.

No, your age and gender are not determining factors in whether we can work together. Although I specialize in working with men between 30-60, the more important factor is whether or not I am the right coach for you and am in a position to help in your area of need. I have worked with both men and women of all ages and backgrounds over the past 25 years. I am also confident in my ability to help facilitate goal accomplishment for nearly anyone willing to take on the challenge of personal or professional development. If, after reading through the information provided in this website, you think I can help you, please do not hesitate to contact me, regardless of whether your a man or woman of any age.
Contact me, either via email or by leaving a voicemail, to schedule a coaching inquiry and consult for us to get to know each other. This is an unstructured session that forms the foundation of our work to follow. This is your opportunity to interview me and for me to interview you. We will explore your personal values, the challenges you face, goals you’d like to accomplish, and your level of commitment to the process. The results of this meeting will determine if my coaching approach is a good match for you, my expectations, and what kind of schedule will work best for us to proceed.

The length of the coaching partnership varies depending on the individual’s or team’s needs and preferences. For certain types of focused coaching, three to six months of working may be enough. For other types of coaching, people may find it beneficial to work with a coach for a longer period.

Coaching is an investment you make in yourself to create the life you truly want. A better question might be: How long am I willing to invest in myself to have the life I really want and be the person I’ve been created to be?

Factors that may impact the length of time include: the types of goals, the ways individuals or teams prefer to work, the frequency of coaching meetings and financial resources available to support coaching.

I personally do not coach one-on-one with first-time clients for less than 30-days, and 90-days is a more ideal minimum timeframe, as I believe lasting change takes at least this long to be established. As a result, you will be required to commit to a minimum monthly contract to begin. This ensures both your level of commitment and investment and provides me a basis for scheduling other clients. Please contact me to schedule your initial consultation to see if coaching is right for you. (This initial contact is not a coaching session but a preliminary discussion of your desires and goals to evaluate our compatibility to work together.)

Unfortunately, this question is usually the “bottom line” question that everyone wants answered. I say unfortunately because contributing to yourself and your future should be considered an investment and not an expense or cost. A better question might be, “What will it cost me, my future, and my family in lost time, energy, satisfaction, and money, if I don’t invest in myself?”

Working with a coach requires both a personal commitment of time and energy as well as a financial commitment. Quality and experienced Life Coaching typically ranges between $500-$1,500 per month for a 30- to 45-minute meeting/call three or four times a month. Executive and corporate coaching customarily costs more and hours vary depending on goals and accessibility.

Generally speaking, personal and individual professional coaching works out to $150-$500 per session and is charged by the package (e.g. month, 3-month, 6-month). Coaching fees vary according to coach experience, education, and availability.

If you are interested in learning more about the packages available through DTLC, please send an email inquiry requesting a consult when those details are discussed. Package descriptions are available on the Services page under Available Service Packages.

Coaching takes place either in person (when possible or specifically requested) or by phone, Skype/FaceTime, or other online video conference. This allows a fluidity and convenience that is not always possible when scheduling the typical face-to-face in-person meetings.

In the coaching relationship, coach and client both have responsibilities.

The coach:

  • Provides objective assessment and observations that foster the individual’s or team’s self-awareness and awareness of others.
  • Listens closely to fully understand the individual’s or team’s circumstances.
  • Acts as a sounding board in exploring possibilities and implementing thoughtful planning and decision making.
  • Champions opportunities and potential, encouraging stretch and challenge commensurate with personal strengths and aspirations.
  • Fosters shifts in thinking that reveal fresh perspectives.
  • Challenges blind spots to illuminate new possibilities and support the creation of alternative scenarios.
  • Maintains professional boundaries in the coaching relationship, including confidentiality, and adheres to the coaching profession’s code of ethics.

The individual:

  • Creates the coaching agenda based on personally meaningful coaching goals.
  • Uses assessment and observations to enhance self-awareness and awareness of others.
  • Envisions personal and/or organizational success.
  • Assumes full responsibility for personal decisions and actions.
  • Utilizes the coaching process to promote possibility thinking and fresh perspectives.
  • Takes courageous action in alignment with personal goals and aspirations.
  • Engages big-picture thinking and problem-solving skills.
  • Takes the tools, concepts, models and principles provided by the coach and engages in effective forward actions.

The process is conversationally-based and question-driven. Through powerful conversations and thought-provoking questioning, we will reveal how you view things, how you are inspired, and what issues might be blocking your progress.

As you begin to see and think through things more clearly and balanced, we will develop exercises and action plans that will help you achieve your goals.

We will clarify what you want, assess where you are, review options and resources, create an action plan, and hold you accountable to self-motivation and commitment.

My approach is rooted in your personal values and the belief that thoughts precede action (i.e perspective is everything). The number one thing I will do is be your ally and believe in you! (even when you don’t)

To be successful, coaching asks certain things, all of which begin with intention. Additionally, you will be asked to:

  • Focus on yourself, the tough questions, the hard truths and your success.
  • Observe the behaviors and communications of others.
  • Listen to your intuition, assumptions, judgments, and to the way you sound when you speak. (It will reveal a lot about how you think and what you believe.)
  • Challenge your existing attitudes, beliefs and behaviors, and develop new ones that serve your goals in a superior way.
  • Leverage your personal strengths and overcome limitations to develop a winning style.
  • Take decisive actions, however uncomfortable and in spite of personal insecurities, to reach for the extraordinary.
  • Show compassion for yourself while learning new behaviors and experiencing setbacks, and to show that compassion for others as they do the same. (Note: you will experience setbacks – it’s a natural part of the process – and you will grow the most through them.)
  • Commit to not taking yourself so seriously, use humor to lighten and brighten any situation.
  • Maintain composure in the face of disappointment and unmet expectations, and avoid emotional reactivity.
  • Have the courage to reach for more than before while engaging in continual self examination without fear.
  • Accept the challenge and consistently remain accountable.
Measuring coaching success can be thought of in a couple of ways. First, there are external indicators of performance and second, internal indicators of success. Ideally, both are incorporated and will be evident to both coach and client.

External measures might include achievement of coaching goals established at the outset of the coaching relationship; increased income/revenue or obtaining a promotion; performance feedback obtained from a sample of the your constituents (e.g., colleagues, customers, boss, or family members); personal and/or business performance data (e.g., productivity, efficiency measures). The external measures selected will likely be things you’re already measuring and have some ability to directly influence.

Examples of internal measures include self-scoring/self-validating assessments that can be administered initially and at regular intervals in the coaching process; changes in your self-awareness and awareness of others; shifts in thinking that create more effective actions, and shifts in your emotional state that inspire confidence.

Remember, coaching is about results!

We’ve been taught that “hard work and doing it on your own” are the keys to finding life, success, and happiness. As Americans, we’re ingrained with the ideal of “rugged individualism” and the old pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps mentality.

Most people believe they must sacrifice something to attain what they want. Some people sacrifice their health, their time to enjoy life, or their relationships. None of this is necessary. You can have it all, but maybe not all right this minute! And, with life coaching, you’ll find you don’t have to sacrifice anything to get what you want.

However, it will likely be true that you need to change or exchange a few things. Clients typically find they have more time with their families and friends, more money, more opportunities, and are more successful at work or in their businesses when they work with a professionally trained coach.

Athletes, performers, CEO’s and presidents know that they can’t do it alone. They know they need a trained professional or even a team of experts to help them determine the best direction and to provide objective support and feedback. Without this, it is almost impossible to achieve excellence.

No athlete would consider going to the Olympics without the support of a coach. The extra edge a coach provides makes all the difference. Why shouldn’t you have this same advantage in your own personal and professional life?

Since coaching is about you and your life, you’re the expert on you and you determine the focus. You set the goals, help determine the plan, and follow through. Although, I might have some radical suggestions on how to reach those goals more quickly. These suggestions will include  personal assessments, homework, and possibly quizzes. 

That said, my primary focus is on what and how you think in relationship to the corresponding actions. Your thoughts and beliefs about yourself, your situation, and your environment dictate your actions and their effectiveness. Perspective is everything and is foundational to my approach.

As mentioned previously, coaching generally happens over the phone, so you can receive coaching anywhere at anytime. In addition, delivering coaching in this way maximizes your time, increases your privacy, and heightens your personal comfort.

During each session we will recap the actions set and achieved from the last session and look at general progress and successes. Then we set a ‘session goal’ to clearly determine what you want to achieve by the end of the day’s session. We then explore where you are at the moment with that particular goal, what you have tried, what has worked and any obstacles you have come across along the way. We then explore all the possible options in achieving that goal, using various techniques to extract options that you may have not thought of before.

Prior to your session, you will complete a ‘coaching report/plan’ describing previous successess, obstacles, and objectives for the coming session. You will forward this to me prior to each session to provide an update and basis for our upcoming session. This helps to keep us both on track and focused on the goals you desire to accomplish with the big picture in mind. It also serves as a tool to indicate shifts and changes from week to week.

Immediately after your session, you will create a follow-up that summarizes what we discussed and what we agreed on would be your approach for the coming week. This provides an opportunity for you to review your goals, action plans, strategies, and questions or concerns. It also provides a point of reference to revisit from day-to-day as needed.

I believe my coaching is unique for at least four reasons. First, my coaching is distinctly and intentionally Christian, which sets it apart from humanistic, post-modern perspectives of the human condition and its remedies. I believe that God has a special calling on your life and it’s my privilege to help you discover it.

Second, my approach is based on a self-developed concept I call Rule Q3™ that addresses key components to living life successfully. Third, my coaching is holistic in nature, meaning part of my goal in coaching is to help you address all areas of your life; physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Only when you feel strong, think clearly, have conviction, and work from the center out can you reach your full potential.

A fourth reason my coaching is unique is because, well, I’m unique. I bring a perspective based on my own experience and life journey. God never wastes an experience and just as your future flows from your unique journey, so my coaching flows from my life story. Because you won’t find another coach like me, you won’t find coaching like mine, either. What I have, I willing share with you and trust that God will bless us both in the process as we partner together. Trust me, you’re gonna be jacked!

Yep, it’s work – it will take effort, be a challenge, could be difficult, and isn’t for the weak – you have to want it.

I could give you all kinds of clichés and platitudes about the rewards of work and striving toward what you really want but you don’t really need that, do you? Suffice it to say that anything worth having is worth the effort. Apart from love and grace, nothing is given to you for free. If you want it, you have to make the determination to go get it. If it were easy, everyone would be living the life they were called to live.

But keep this in mind – You’re not in this alone – I believe in you and even more exciting, God believes in you. You have the potential to transform your life!

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∗ More details to these questions can be found in several of the articles in Ten-13.